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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why can’t anyone take the baby with them when they are getting the older child to and from daycare?  It sounds like neither of you regularly take care of both kids solo.  No wonder she was stressed!!!

I would say that dad takes the baby and the preschooler in the mornings while mom showers and eats breakfast and feels normal for a couple of hours.  Then mom takes the baby and the four year old in the afternoons.  That way she can get to the school on time and dad has a little bit of time to decompress at the end of the workday.

You guys have two kids now.  You both need to be able to take care of two kids on your own.  
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This. The other thing I’m sensing is that maybe OP doesn’t want his work to know he’s stepping away at 2pm CA. That’s one reason why this plan is solid start. OP takes both DCs in the am, baby goes on the 5min ride to daycare unless they’re asleep, and then OPs DW does the 5pm with both kids unless baby is sleeping. The witching hour is right around the corner from 5pm so someone needs to help DW if she’s expected to put dinner on the table, but at least divide and conquer the AM and PMs differently.

FWIW, I am a SAHM and none of my kids went to daycare so this juggle your wife is experiencing was normative for me. It was hard and I did hire a sitter 2 mornings a week so I could go to the gym, but even then I took a toddler with me to the gym daycare and only left the baby at home (and on their schedule which made my life easier overall). Emergency sitters are hard to find but maybe more reliable breaks will make snow days easier to manage for your DW.

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