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[quote=Anonymous]Mom with two 10lb-ers here.  I understand why OP is sensitive to the comments made by the neighbor, but this is getting a little out of hand.  EVEN IF the neighbor knew the baby was a preemie it's a pretty common comment to make about any newborn - "soooo tiny" (usually meaning sooooo cute).  If you've never had a preemie than I don't think it crosses your mind that this is still a concern once the baby is home from the hospital and going on outings with mom and dad.

My kids never wore newborn clothes and even the nurses made comments about having to go to peds to get larger diapers and tees after each of mine were born.  Well, with the second I learned my lesson and brought my own diapers and clothes from the get go.  I might have been a little sensitive when EVERYBODY commented on how BIG my kids were, how HUGE they were for newborns, how they didn't even LOOK like a newborn......it goes on and on.  BUT, I knew that these were my concerns and issues and that everyone else was just making comments based on what they saw in my kids.  As they got older, still following the 98-99 percentile for height and weight for a few years the comments kept coming.  I knew I was feeding my kids healthy and the ped said they were healthy and just fine.  Both are still quite tall at 7 and 4 but they have slimmed down and don't look like monster-sized kids any more!!

One positive that OP might see later on is that people will think her kid is really smart and mature as he gets older since he is smaller for his age.  On the flip side, I found myself on the other end of very nasty stares and actual comments from people about my child's behavior and communication when they were developmentally on track but looked MUCH older than they really were.  I felt the need to respond with (while smiling).....typical 12m, 18m or 2yo behavior I guess!  To which I usually got a response of - wow, I didn't know they were that young.  They look so much older!

OP - don't sweat your comments and just know that we are all secretly concerned about something with our kids and other aren't always aware of what these concerns are so let the comments roll off your back. Even for those who make snide comments, let it roll off your back because it's not worth it be upset by it.

Good luck with your new baby and enjoy![/quote]

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