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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a male and I found my best friend of 20 years, female, was cheating on her DH.  I completely cut her out of my life.  I didn’t even like her husband.  It is trashy behavior and not the type of people I want to associate with, [/quote]

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I strongly disagree with this.
(Flame away!)

I feel a good, authentic friend is one who may not agree with everything a friend may do but would not banish them out of their lives entirely over something they disagreed with - even strongly.

If I had a best friend since say high school or college and they were very loyal to me and were there for me during the good as well as the bad times…..if they were very supportive of me during difficult times and I knew I could count on them for anything….

Well if they confided in me that they were having an affair, would I simply cut them out of my life completely??!
Absolutely not.
While I wouldn’t approve of what they were doing, as their friend I would not sever ties w/them over a bad decision.
I would continue to be their friend, loyal and supportive.
Now if they were abusing their children or had killed someone then that would be a crime and of course I would end my friendship with that person.

However overall I am a very dedicated friend I would like to think. ❤️[/quote]

I think it depends on if you can talk to the friend or not, and how they expect you to act. I was the college roommate poster and I couldn’t stand it because it involved my own integrity - having to maintain normal conversations with the cheated on partner when I knew what was going on, talking to the roommate about my discomfort involving me but having her continue the behavior. [/quote]

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