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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well-to-do parents who pretend they're poor, especially when they make their kids think they're poor.
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Hmm.

Like poor poor or just sensible poor? Or ruthlessly cheap?

My spouse’s parents to this day make a sport out of pretending to be poor and cheap. Make others pay for their trips or meals or outings. Just bad manners too.

But growing up he never had real vacations, said he never went to camp bc they were poor, no sports or paid activities- just study, piano and hang out at the music shop. 4 to shirts, 2 slacks, 1 pair shoes. Throw it out in 1-2 years, rebuy the same. Uniform schools too.

Reality is the father got huge public stock comp every year plus his base, bonus and company car, to the point where they gifted each kid 100s of shares each year. Then they had a cheap heloc and bought 5+ multi family small rental properties that tripled in value plus are cash cows. Plus their summer house which was a steal. And then when my spouse was 20 his mom inherited 1-2M and they bought a huge house and land for gardening. Also a steal bc it abutted a factory, which is now a pricey subdivision.

So they’re actually loaded, shrewd, and cheap as all get out.

We get hair brushes for Xmas from them yet took them on an Airbnb long weekend for Thanksgiving and it was pulling teeth for them to even pay for a meal or excursion out or their share. Our kids even notice the games they play when a bill comes or they go get a hot chocolate and the In Laws come running to buy one too.

They never say thank you. They never offer to pay anything.  They never say they had a good time. They do ask rude questions occasionally. And for not saying much ever those zingers really stand out.[/quote]
Yep. Grew up in an upscale suburb near NYC (Westchester County) and my parents were misers who acted like we had no money. Never went on vacation (an aunt took me and my sibling to disney once). Yelling when we outgrew clothes or they wore out. Guilt trips when we needed money for anything. It wasn't a case of lifestyle decisions making them cash poor. They just didn't spend any money. When I was a teenager, I started realizing there was no way - my mom stayed home and my dad was an executive at a major corporation. I got a job and babysat as much as possible to pay club dues and to play a sport in high school.

The inheritance is grand, but I think I'd give a big chunk of it up for the kid who was scared to say her feet hurt in shoes that were too small.

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