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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The real question is when do you tap out?  [/quote]

As a parent? Drive them to practice and meets, and that’s it. High level swimmers know their times, know the cut times, and what is at stake if they do or don’t continue improving. It’s a lot of pressure to train for months and hope that it pays off in races that are over so quickly. Do not add to that pressure as a parent. Swimmers tend to be hard on themselves. It is so damaging for a kid to be upset about a bad race and then worry their parents will be mad about it on top of that.

[b]The best advice I have read was “don’t care more than your kid”.[/b] Save that for school/education if needed. Everything else is not a hill you need to die on. [/quote]

This is so true. Early on, I had what DC calls my “swim mommy” phase. I was oretty involved because I thought that showed interest and would help DC succeed. What I learned was that I was doing exactly the opposite and it was making my kid not want to swim. So now, I let DC make the decisions and I just show up to watch. As my kid said to me earlier after an ok day at January Open, “in 10 years I won’t remember what my times were, but I will remember if I had fun and enjoyed it”.  And really, *that’s* what matters most. [/quote]

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