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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We sleep separately and I find it hard.  I miss falling asleep in DH arms or waking up to some morning adult time. [/quote]

This feels like it was written by a husband
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I did not write the above. I"m a man.  
I will only date women who could write something like that. After almost a decade together, my ex wife asked me to sleep in the guest room.  Her request coincided with a big reduction in her sex drive.  Yes, I snore, but most women I've met since divorce can deal with it.  I use an anti-snoring mouth guard, which is good enough for most women but not my ex wife.  Separate bedrooms may have destroyed my marriage. Yes, she needed to sleep, but she stopped prioritizing us as a couple and the change in sleeping arrangements was part of a big change in her priorities.  [/quote]
What is your weight/body fat percentage?[/quote]

I don't know.  [b]I'm definitely somewhat overweight.  Some women don't find me attractive but quite a few do. I basically look like a former football player.[/b] Losing weight reduces snoring a little.  The mouth guard reduced it more.  [/quote]

This sounds like a lot of man mumbo jumbo justification for "I'm extremely fat". A lot of these football players would be obese by any standard, and they need to be in order to be able to run into other 300 lb men on the football field. But it has about the same sexual appeal (to women) as a sumo wrestler. No one finds that attractive, and if it's literally causing you to snore and have issues breathing... it's bad. [/quote]

Maybe that's how my ex felt about me.

Now she's with a guy who's thinner than I am but ten years older than I am and dumb.  I don't know about his snoring. I'm with a woman who's ten years younger than she is and smart, and also better looking. She also sleeps through my snoring.

That's not the ending I wanted when I married my ex.  [/quote]

Probably. Being with a fat man who cant control himself foodwise and is deeply selfish to the point of throwing a tantrum when his partner wants to get a full night of rest is a definite turn off. [/quote]

That PP is a truly awful human being too, bragging that his new gf is younger and better looking than his wife was. I just feel bad that the wife put up with him for 10 years before she saw the light. I honestly can’t even imagine staying with someone for a single day who thought that torturing me with a lack of sleep was a good idea because he prefers to stay fat. And then thinks of himself as a professional athlete. I can’t even.[/quote]

I left her.  She didn't leave me. It as a sad day. She wept for days when I left, but I was sad too. I have no desire to torture anyone but I also have no desire to be treated like my happiness is irrelevant. She had no interest in marriage counseling, but we went to multiple counselors, all of who found her to be selfish. Who knows? Maybe she's on here, though I doubt it.

I don't think husbands should torture their wives with sleep deprivation, but if a wife is going to send her husband to the sofa or guest room, she should do other things to compensate instead of making him feel like a an afterthought.  Women who don't understand this are putting their marriages at risk.  You can call me an awful human being if you want, but you don't sound so wonderful yourself, and my current partner does not agree with you.  Even my ex wife does not agree with you.

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