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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think Amanda Palmer is getting enough hate on this thread. She not only served him up vulnerable young women, she was also complicit in making them vulnerable. I was so angry that nanny wasn’t paid until months later. She had no support system and no money- the power differential there [b]would make it very difficult for her to say no. [/b]

Amanda Palmer also love bombed fans to get them to do her favors and often didn’t pay. While people were probably excited by her fame, it’s a shitty thing to do. That pales in comparison to some of the other allegations. [/quote]

DP.  I don't really understand this.  We've never had a nanny but we've had house cleaners and babysitters, and I have worked before as a babysitter.  Sex has never been a part of any of it.  This woman made a decision to say yes.  There's a lot of pretending that the nanny was young and somehow had sex with her boss by accident or unavoidably.  Such a strange take.[/quote]

Did you read the article?

The nanny was hired by Amanda Palmer first as a sitter and then for a temporary nannying gig during the pandemic. Nanny had lost her job at the start of the pandemic and had been crashing on a friend's couch so jumped at the chance for a job that involved housing. She had a good experience while babysitting at Palmer's house, nothing inappropriate.

Then Palmer drives her to Gaiman's one day to babysit but the child isn't there -- he's at a playdate that Palmer set up (very odd, why would Palmer take the nanny to Gaiman's knowing the child wasn't there?). While she's waiting for the child to come home, Gaiman suggests she take a bath in an outdoor bathtub and says he'll leave her alone. She doesn't want to but is intimidated by him, doesn't know him, and feels he is trying to get her out of the house because it's awkward. So she agrees. Then while she is in the tub, he shows up naked, gets in the tub, tells her not to leave, and then rapes her.

So no, she did not have sex with her boss "accidentally." She was raped by her boss who she had only just met after the other parent had (perhaps intentionally) arranged for her to be alone in his house with him. She did not have another living situation at the time, this was her only potential source of income (though they mostly neglected to pay her, but she did have housing and they were feeding her), and there was a pandemic at the time limiting both job and housing opportunities. She was estranged from her parents and was a survivor of childhood abuse.

So no, she did not "make a decision to say yes." At no point was it consensual. Gaiman, likely with the assistance of Palmer, took advantage of her vulnerability in order to both force her and coerce her into sex. She had no support network at the time and very few other options.

Is that the situation your house cleaner is in as well?[/quote]

I think the people who are defending this behavior see Gaiman as a quasi-religious figure and simply cannot absorb the facts here because it challenges their almost-cult world view. [/quote]

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