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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Nothing bitter or insecure about it, unlike the single moms by choice crashing out on this thread about how much better they are than OP because they arent in a relationship. The hypocrisy is absolutely insane, and [b]it's funny[/b] because in many (most?) places [b]the stigma works the opposite way[/b], so the delusions of grandeur are a bit rich.[/quote]

You have continued in each of your posts to use words like "funny", "entertainment", etc. It's telling; there is absolutely nothing funny, amusing, or otherwise about OP's situation. But you don't actually mean it's funny; you are the person who uses that word as a mask to put down others. You have also, in each of your posts, made it known how much you disdain single mothers, while accusing others of the same. So a few reminders for you: there is no "stigma" to being single, as a mother or otherwise. The collective consensus of single moms on this thread isn't that OP is less than for being pregnant. It's that they are not less than either, and won't be called out for being so. Not by you, OP, or anyone else. If you had any understanding of raising children on your own, you'd get it. You don't, and continue to try to put single moms "in their place" (telling, that), while casually denigrating OP and reminding her of her "stigma". Stop it. She's considering, and is receiving in encouragement in this thread, to marry a man she's already identified as an unfit partner. That's scary. Be supportive or move on.

To all of you advising OP to get married, you need to check yourselves. Should OP give this relationship a chance? She's the only one who knows. And she can do that, and *still* marry this guy later and fulfill everyone's patriarchal needs. But legally binding herself to this guy prior to baby's birth, just to say she did? My Lord. That may reflect your "values", but be real. We all know what OP is likely headed into if she marries this guy: being trapped financially, potential abuse, maybe another baby. All for the approval of men in this world (and the women who support them). What a prize. When that happens and she's unmarried, she walks out with baby and yes, creates a custody schedule. When that happens and she's married? Good luck.[/quote]

There's nothing funny about OP's situation, there is something very funny about the lack of self awareness of many of the single mom's by choice assumed superiority when that's very out of step with how the rest of the world views it. The condescension and rudeness displayed by many of them towards OP, when many of them would be looked down upon by others, is just pretty ironic and absurd. I'm sure if they exhibited some basic compassion and empathy, rather than trying to make a point of how much better they are than a single mom via failed relationship, it would go along way towards fixing that issue. Theyre the ones denigrating OP and speaking to her pretty nastily, and the argument that "I'm a single mom too and it's hard" is not a defense of that.[/quote]

Is there a prize for thread derailment that you’re going for here? Literally *no one* is keeping this ‘OP vs. other single moms’ feud alive, except you. My God, let it go. [/quote]

I am not the only one who is responding with this position or who called them out. But sure, once the single moms by choice stop defending their asinine, original attacks on OP (which I'm glad they seem to have at least reflected on and backtracked from) then I'm happy to move on. It was a gross display on their part, and at least they seem to have realized the error of their ways, changed tacts and are now more supportive to OP, which I'm glad to see.[/quote]

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