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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is clearly not a good decision maker, she’s already 6m pregnant by someone she isn’t married to.

OP, you need to realize there’s a huge likelihood you will wind up raising a baby on your own. Single motherhood is the #1 cause of female poverty. Is that what you want? [/quote]

She has no choice now, unless the PP who has the doctor pal can magically get her to that doctor's clinic, stat.

She does need to get savvy, and fast, about finding a good lawyer. If she is very fortunate, the soon-to-be-ex fiance will not want parental rights, but if he does, he's in her world for the rest of her life as the other parent. At least, until the child is 18. I'd be hunting down lawyers with experience in getting mom the most custody possible. (The pro-dad, anti-wife cadre on DCUM will hate that, but whatever.) He sounds like he'd be a nightmare having a child half the time. He'll only teach the kid to walk on eggshells just like OP says she does. it's a terrible environment for bringing up a kid, and she needs to protect the kid from daddy's delicate selfish sensibilities. [/quote]

You are just brimming with wrong information aren’t you.

She DOES have a choice. SHE CAN STILL LEGALLY TERMINATE in both DC and VA.

As for the dad, they are not married, so he is not the presumptive father (the law assumes that the husband is the father of the parents are married when the baby is born), and if she doesn’t put his name down on the birth certificate, he will have a tough time getting rights. In theory, she could leave today, have the baby elsewhere, not put his name in the BC, and live in relative peace, except for the extreme stress of being a 24 yo unwed single mother with it sounds like little going on in the earning department.[/quote]

You really are invested in your belief that she can find a doctor willing to do an elective abortion for a healthy pregnancy at six-plus months.

Having the legal ability to get an abortion does not mean that doctors are required to perform one for you. Unfortunate but true.

You're in a fantasy where you think doctors are not going to consider the potential repercussions on their own careers if it comes out that they did an abortion in the circumstances OP presents. Yes, even in locations where such a procedure would be legal. Just saying "but it's legal so she can still get one" does not make it a reality for this woman in this case. [/quote]

I’m invested making sure this young woman is aware of all her legal options and not cowed by a naysaying obstructionist who seems to be heavily invested in her not even trying to exercise her legal right to an abortion at (checks post) under six months gestation.

OP, call planned parenthood today for a referral, I’m sure they answer this question with some regularity.[/quote]

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