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[quote=Anonymous]"Honestly I would say 99% of women settled. The reason I say this is because women are just beautiful and they simply cannot find men at their level as far as attractiveness. Men and women look for different things in each other. The things they look in men in 99% of cases they won't find them and they just have to settle."

This post is riddled with issues stemming from the poster's lack of knowledge (and the ability to apply) statistics and logic.

[quote]Honestly I would say 99% of women settled.[/quote] Does the poster mean that 99% of women seeking a partner deserve the top 1% of men? In other words, does she believe that 99 women out of 100 deserve to be with the one man considered the best out of 100? Does she advocate for this lucky man to have 99 wives?

Attractiveness for selecting mates is based on a comparison to each person's peer group. This means that, for every 100 men (or women), one person is "ranked" most attractive (he or she is in the top 1%). The following 99 people in the group are ranked accordingly. For example, the second most attractive man is ranked in the top 2% of men (i.e., he is considered more attractive than 98% of the other men in the group.) Men are ranked against other men in attractiveness, just like women are ranked against other women. For the poster to write that "99% of women settled" shows a breathtaking level of stupidity.

[quote]The reason I say this is because women are just beautiful and they simply cannot find men at their level as far as attractiveness.[/quote] This statement is almost too poorly written to unravel. However, it is easy to repute. A woman in the top 20% of attractive women (i.e., she is more appealing than 80% of the other women) can have her pick of the men in the lower 80% of attractiveness. She must compete with more attractive women (i.e., women in the top 19% of attractiveness) for men in the top 19% of all men.

This poster believes so many women settle because she has (vastly) overestimated her attractiveness and projected this mistake to all men and women. She is likely a four, but she thinks she deserves a man who is a nine because "women are just beautiful." She cannot accept the truth, which is the nine-man will end up with the nine-woman, and she will end up with a four (like herself) or with a nice assortment of cats.

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