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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That's not unreasonable that he spend the time with his dad if his dad is supporting him after 18.  You can always pay for college yourself or he can pay if he doesn't want a relationship.  Simple.[/quote]

[b]He's obligated to pay by our divorce degree. [/b]We both pay child support to son in proportion to our income, child support is legally till age 21 in my state. The issue is that dad threatens not to follow the legal agreements if son is not doing what he wants him to do. If exH doesn't prepay tuition for next semester, I would end up in court collecting it.

I am actually the one financially interested here in their good relationship and who insisted on 50/50 time split on college breaks. I'm dating, too and need some time for myself. Grown up kids are expensive and child support is minimal.

But I feel like a shitty mother for "selling" my son to the person he doesn't want to have anything in common. I am thinking long term: exH is much older, he will be gone in 20 years or so. Our son is a sole heir and in trusts of a multi-mullion estate. [/quote]

This is not enforceable. Just so you know.

People put a lot of things in their marriage settlement agreements that aren’t actually enforceable in a court of law. Forcing one parent to pay for college exclusively is one of them.

You and your son should be more grateful that your ex is agreeing to pay for it. He is not, in fact, “obligated” to.[/quote]

It's part of the civil  assets settlement and is totally enforceable. I can arrest his real estate, accounts etc. It will only take time, and legal costs which is inconvenience.

Seems like too many posters here are upset some other mother was able to get a great deal for her child. Or maybe they are upset that men they are dating have money hidden for their natural kids. 
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No, sweetie. It’s not. You clearly don’t know the first thing about Family Law.

No one is upset about anything. Except for obviously you. [/quote]

NP.  First, calling her "sweetie" in this context is [b]misogynistic[/b], and you don't belong in this forum of mainly women.

Second, you're wrong, and she's right.  From her description, it sounds like a property settlement.  She can pay for college and sue him to recover the payments and her attorney's fees and interest.  Then, she can find someone to enforce the judgment for her.  [/quote]

You really shouldn’t use words you don’t understand, toots.

It might be condescending, because OP is quite the histrionic idiot. But that’s not misogyny.

Honestly, if you cannot use vocabulary correctly, maybe sit the rest of this one out. [/quote]

This sounded cooler and more impressive when it was in your head. Just FYI. DP[/quote]

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