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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP above and I forgot to add that I was sexually assaulted multiple times in my late teens and 20s and didn’t even fully understand it was sexual assault until the last time (when I pressed charges and was ready to testify until last-minute plea deal). That’s why I have started so early with DD. [/quote]

I’m sorry this happened to you.
I’m not really understanding a sexual assault that you “didn’t really understand was sexual assault” until it happened to you several times.
Obviously that sounds horrific. Very confusing though for the guy as well if he also didn’t realize that it was against your will? Just trying to figure out how that is communicated after the fact so that he is also aware that you now realize it was sexual assault.[/quote]

I am not PP but a lot of people think it isn't assault if it isn't violent rape. Too drunk to consent, froze up, groped but no penetration - lots of people wrongly think these are not assault. [/quote]

How is the guy going to know that you don’t want it if you don’t say no. [/quote]

[b]Because the default is no. Too many men assume the default is yes because it’s convenient for them to believe that.[/b]

If she’s unconscious, if she’s extremely drunk, if she’s terrified, if she’s being taken advantage of, if she had to be coerced or shamed, if the man holds power over her (a job, a grade, a ride home), that’s a no.

If she’s had sex with someone else before, that is not blanket consent to have sex with all men in the future.

If she’s done Sex Act A with someone else, it is her right to decide she doesn’t like Sex Act A and doesn’t want to do it with future partners.

Rule of thumb for harassment: if you wouldn’t want a strange man saying or doing those things to you, then don’t say or do them to women.[/quote]
Well put. If my words and body language don’t convey obvious consent, the answer is no. If you’re unsure how to read my body language, if it’s at all ambiguous, ask for consent and graciously accept the first “no,” without any rancor or trying to change my mind.[/quote]

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