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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Huh. To me it sounds a little less pretentious than saying, "I don't allow juice", which IMO implies that juice is bad. "We don't do..." sounds a little more casual and less passive-aggressively judgemental.[/quote]

This. I tell my daughter “we don’t” because I’d rather not say “juice is bad for your teeth” since she’s totally going to repeat whatever I say in school and I don’t want it to sound judgy[/quote]

Huh, I take the exact opposite approach. If I limit something I tell my kid exactly why. I don’t serve juice at home and limit sweets, and she’s knows it’s because sweets are delicious but bad for our health and teeth so we eat them in moderation. Why would it be bad for your kid to state that factual message?

I allow only a few minutes of TV a day while we brush teeth, only some old school claymation stuff. I don’t buy juice, don’t allow artificial dyes, organic only, all the annoying health clichés.

I allow my kid to watch or eat whatever when we are out of the house or at someone else’s. I view it as harm reduction, not some binary control thing. The social costs to your family and kids of being the judgmental weirdos are too high. If you generally eat healthy at home and are honest with your kids about why you make your choices but that other families make different ones for many reasons, I think it will all turn out ok.[/quote]

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