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[quote=Anonymous]I can only speak from my experience. My mom refused to move into an Assisted Living facility and my stepdad wouldn't force it. So she died at home.
I am 100% sure she would have lived longer and had a much better quality of life if they had moved. No questions. "Aging in place" is highly over-rated IMO, and only works if  at some point you have round the clock care (she did). 
Even then, she was so severely limited all she could do was sit in their den all day, if she wasn't in bed. At a facility, we could at least have taken her outside, or gone to various activities, etc.
My stepdad moved after she died. If he had gone earlier, he also would be in much better shape today. Instead, while he was at home in the weeks after her death he deteriorated physically very rapidly. It was shocking. And at that age, I don't think many people can come back from that. He certainly hasn't. 
I think aging in place is much more challenging than most people realize. And while everyone says "I'd rather just die," but when it actually comes to that time, almost nobody feels that way. 
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