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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're saying no to everything your sister proposes. So what plan do you actually think is good? If you want to protect your relationship with your sister, come to the table with something other than "no no no, me me me".[/quote] What? No! The OP does not need to forego her family’s financial well being to buy her mother a condo. OP all you can do is set the boundary and be clear what you can or can’t do. Sadly, you can’t control how others react. It’s not your sisters place to determine what your family should sacrifice for your mother. [/quote] Of course she doesn't. But if she wants a good relationship with her sister, then she needs a problem-solving attitude and should propose something that is realistic that she will be comfortable with. Shooting down the sister's ideas and offering no constructive input will damage the sibling relationship. [/quote] Agreed. You can have it both ways. You can't refuse to meaningfully help then expect the sister relationship to go undamaged.[/quote] This. OP, what *are* you willing to do? You've said you're unwilling to visit more than monthly, and you're unwilling to give any money, okay, but are you unwilling to do any of the other work here? Because it's going to be a lot of work. All you've done so far is shoot down her proposals, and you really have no idea what your mom can or cannot afford at this point. Can you research things online? Fly to a potential destination and look at where your mom might live? Help with the sale of the house your mom doesn't live in? Find a financial advisor that your sister can bring your mom to? There are any number of things you can do to be helpful here. Try to do some.[/quote]
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