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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dh is like you. I’m so grateful. They DO exist.

My only question: what is a fault of yours. You’re not perfect (nobody is), so what do you think is the one thing your dw would change about you?[/quote]

Oh wow good question.

I have a tendency to obsess a little over health things, even though intellectually I know they aren’t a big deal.  They can cause my stress level to increase more than it needs to.  I’m talking about like thinking every skin thing is cancer.  I also overdo the worrying a bit about how past choices may affect my future.  I wonder a lot if the drinking I did in college will impact my health down the line.

[b]Also I think there have been times where I have used matter of fact language in disagreements about sensitive topics and I should have thought more about how my words would land before I said them.    [/b]
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Said no DCUM poster before now.  I call troll, lol.[/quote]

Isn't this near-exactly what the "high value man" cited as his "flaw" though? Some minor technicality about his language?[/quote]

From the HVM - AMA thread:

"Question: What are your big 5 "issues" and how are you "committed to continued growth and evolution as a person" in regard to them?

This will be too long of an answer to address all of that, so I will only do a few. In my younger years, I had a tendency to cut people off too easily and not give them the benefit of the doubt. I realized that this is not the healthiest impulse for forming strong connections. I have evolved to try to have more empathy, grant people more grace for whatever difficulties they may be experiencing in moments when they have not presented themselves in the best light and tried to step outside of my own head, experiences and thought processes to better understand where I might have blind spots that don't allow me to see where they might be coming from. This is all still a work in progress. Life is hard.

Another has been communication. To keep it short, I have tried become a better, more active listener and less blunt in my approach. As has been exhibited in this thread, this is also a work in progress

I have a committee of trusted people who know me well enough to help point out blind spots and give me perspective, but at the end of the day you have to go with your own gut and discernment."

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