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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I had something similar happen when I was in my mid twenties.  My Jewish boyfriend at the time, who was a few years older, was great.  I thought we were in love and moving toward marriage.  Then one weekend he went home to his mom in NYC and phoned me, late at night, to say he was there to talk to her about me and ask her advice.  Her advice was that I sounded "very sweet", but she wanted Jewish grandchildren and that she told him eventually it WOULD matter to him that I wasn't Jewish, [b]even if I converted.[/b]  And he was very conflicted, but that was it.

I can't understand exactly what the cultural forces are at play here, [b]but this happened to me and to several of my friends[/b].  It is what it is.  [/quote]

That is 1,000% total BS.

Jewish mothers and grandmothers want their sons to marry Jewish women, because according to Jewish tradition, the child's religion is passed down through the mother.

[b]Please allow me to set the record straight, once and for all.  
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The reason that Jewish mother's have [i]such[/i]  a deep desire for their children to marry Jewish, is NOT because we think that Judaism is "the best" religion in the world, or because we think we're the chosen ones or we're the only faith that matters.  All of that is complete nonsense (although, there will always be those who'll say that's the truth, so they have a reason to hate us).  It's a very uninformed, narrow-minded point of view.

[b]The ACTUAL reason it's important to Jewish parents, is because it's deeply tied to the trauma we still feel from the Holocaust, and the millions of Jews that perished then.  There isn't a single Jewish family that's alive today, that didn't have  family that was killed in the Holocaust.  Whether they personally knew those family members or not, all jews feel an inherent responsibility to honor the millions of innocent lives that we lost, by ensuring the continuity and continuation of the Jewish lineage.[/b]

So, there it is.

With regards to you and your ex... [b]when a woman converts to Judaism, she is FULLY accepted as Jewish, just as if she had been born Jewish. [/b]

Her children therefor by Jewish law, ARE Jewish.  For life.  Regardless of whether the mother changes her religion at a later date.

If the mother was Jewish at the time the child was born into the world, then her child will remain Jewish for their entire life (except if they convert, obviously) regardless of what their mom does with her own religion

As long as you had converted, your children would've been just as Jewish as your husband was.  Every jew knows that.

So, that was a total BS excuse the gave to you (oh, and the several friends that it happened to, also).  
His mom never said that.

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