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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][twitter][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are all of you? Curious (or clueless) nine year old sees your daughter who freaks out and rather than get in trouble the kid says “no, she made me do it”. You should have told her to lock the door, tell him to not go in if someone is in there and have everyone apologize.

Nine year old boys are curious about boobies. [/quote]

+1.  Yes, she’s right to be upset but this sh-t happens.  Take her side, tell her that he was being a little sh-t but 9 year old boys aren’t known for their great behavior, and aunt Larla is being dumb about it, so you’re just gojng to move on.  Lock the door always gojng forward, and don’t engage with SIl.  If she pushes it, I think your best answer is “well, he clearly misheard because no way in hell did she call him in.”  [/quote]

Ah yes the boys will be boys defense[/quote]

It’s not a defense.  I’m not saying that what he did is okay (and honestly it’s more about him being 9 than about him being a boy —[b] I can see a 9 year old girl doing something similar because they are also curious about bodies and also tend to be a little oblivious to their surroundjngs.[/b]  I just don’t see any use in OP calling for him to be publicly pilloried.  I think the most likely thing is that he walked in oblivious to her being in there, then was sort of startled and froze, then when she started screaming and he was going to get in trouble, he made up a dumb lie.   Kids that age lie all the time when they think they will get in trouble, and they are usually really dumb/transparent lies.  The worst actor here is SIL for believing such a stupid lie—but I don’t know that calling SIL out on this stupidity will be helpful.  Saying “well perhaps he misheard her, and in the future he’ll know not to enter a closed bathroom door without knocking.” And moving on seems like the best course.  And if this is typical for SIL, I would avoid future shared living arrangements.  [/quote]

You went too far with the bolded.

I know this is the DC area and we are as PC as it gets, but don't kid yourselves. We can argue all day about whether it's biology or learned behavior, but a 9 year old girl would not peek in on a 16 year old taking a shower. Absolutely not![/quote]

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