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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This article is such BS, it’s not about intensive parenting. It’s about having two working parents required to just get by, and then really expensive housing which makes everything else harder to manage and afford. [b]There was a lot easier lifestyle where without intensive parenting, when you had a parent, who was home to take care of everything related to the kids as well as clean and cook[/b].[/quote]

But what parent really wants to give up everything to stay home cooking and cleaning? I know some people are happy to do it, but it shouldn’t be an expectation for good parenting.[/quote]

Why are you devaluing SAH parents? [/quote]

I don't think that PP was devaluing SAH parents at all. Just saying that good parents can WOH as well as SAH.[/quote]

Let me quote the person who is admitting to devaluing SAH:

“Because everything a SAH parent has all day to do still needs to be done by working parents, just without a lot less tome to actually do it”[/quote]

It’s not devaluing what a SAH parent can do. As a working parent, I still cook, but I do it at 8-10 pm and cook for 2-3 days so I don’t have to do it daily. I still help kids with homework and that’s also after I get home from work, so sometime between 7-8 pm, or after 8 (if I don’t have to  cook / prep for next day). If I didn’t have to work, I’d be doing these things between 9am - 2 pm while kids are at school, I would be able to dedicate a bit more time and maybe get nicer food on the table, and I’d help kids with homework around 4-6 and be less stressed when I am helping them.

It’s not devaluing what someone else does, just highlighting the reality of working parents. We still need to squeeze significant house / child care into pre/ and after work hours.[/quote]

This!!! I am a single mom who works. My kid is in elementary school and then goes to about 2.5 hours of after care. I still need to clean my house, do the laundry, go grocery shopping and get healthy food on the table. I do all the stuff a stay at home mom does, I just have to be more efficient about it because I don’t have 6 free hours in the day while my kid is at school.

I batch cook at night, or with the crockpot. I bake all our bread, one weekend a month I do 4 loaves and freeze them. What that looks like is mixing the dough in the morning and leaving it to rise while I take my kid to his soccer game, then baking it in the afternoon. I work from home and I’ll often do a quick grocery run between school drop off and when I start work. But I don’t have an hour to navel gaze my way around the store. I go in with a list and zoom through in 10 minutes. [/quote]

Why the nasty and unnecessary commentary? No reason to shiv SAHMs here. I WFH and most moms I know (SAHM and WOH/WFH) just order online and do pick up. No one is navel gazing. How odd. [/quote]

Oh please. We’ve all seen the endless posts where sahms make a case for what they do all day and how it’s sooooo much more than what working moms do. It’s always stuff like grocery shopping, meal planning and “paying bills”. [/quote]

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