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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous](1) start downsizing as soon as your kids have launched and you know you don't need all this stuff any more. A house is one thing, a house full of stuff that's 20-30 years old is another. 
(2) exercise. Take care of your health. Don't overeat, keep mentally active. 
(3)[b] I honestly don't think kids will be interested in caring for parents in the future. Just like many of them got sent to daycares, old people will have theirs. With current mobility it's unlikely for kids to live close by or even on the same continent. [/b]Make your plans as if you don't have kids. [/quote]

I do think there is something to this. My sister has been point person on caring for my parents (rest of siblings live in distant cities) and now mom lives with her. But my parents were also very hands-on grandparents who helped her a ton over the years with childcare and navigating a difficult divorce. She and her kids are super close with my parents and there was no question that of course mom would live with her after my dad died. We other siblings help as we can and visit regularly. I saw the same dynamic with DH's family -- his brother stayed in their hometown, lived on the same street as his parents, grandparents were the primary childcare and grandpa moved in with the kids after his wife died.

If you want your children to care for you when you are old, it helps to be involved and helpful for them when you can. I definitely want to do that for my kids/grandkids.[/quote]

That's all great!  But don't expect your kids to quit their jobs/move to PT or less work in order to care for you, once you need more than "just having someone around part of the day".  
Most 40-50 yo are not up to stopping work to care for parents.  And in home care is expensive
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