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[quote=Anonymous]This thread shows such a misunderstanding about child development and attachment. I'm a parent who has done multiple options - full time 8 hrs a day home daycare for 1.5 years, part time 4 days a week half day preschool (while I was part time) for a couple years, and now one in elementary school and one in preschool 9-3 pm each day. My career/background is in child development as well. And this whole thread is missing the point - the way attachment works means that parents still have WAY more influence over a child. Way, way. It actually isn't about hours. Most parents that work full time that are present and connected to their children when they aren't working are 100% the primary caregiver and research shows have the most influence BY FAR on the child.

Is the work that caregivers do at preschools, daycares etc important? Of course - it is important they are loving, that the care is responsive, flexible etc. but they will never have more influence than a connected parent even if there are technically more hours in a day. It just isn't how it works.

So, parents staying home can say that and it is a decision I understand - I've adjusted my career as well because it was what worked best for me. But to the PhD parent at the front of this thread claiming how smart they are, reading about how attachment works would really help. Kids with parents who work full time but have a connected, warm, loving, responsive relationship at home are absolutely just fine. [/quote]

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