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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m white, H is Latino. We’ve struggled a LOT with the division of domestic labor and everything defaulting to me. We’ve tried Fair Play a few times without much success, but decided to give it another shot.

We went out for a coffee date a couple weekends ago to talk and divide up the cards. I tried to keep everything light-hearted and fun, and to have open conversations like the book says to. H kept getting more and more visibly irritated with the whole thing, and in the middle of dividing up the cards loudly said in the coffee shop: “my friends warned me not to marry a white woman because they don’t clean!”

I shrugged it off and didn’t respond because there were literally tables within 2-3 feet of us that I’m sure heard it. I brought it up later and he did apologize. But the more I sit with it, the more it really bothers me. His mom has talked about how he should be with a woman who stays home and does all the domestic work (which is a moot point, because H can’t afford it on his salary alone). And sometimes H makes offhand comments about white people (like a got into a certain hobby, and his response was “that’s such a white person thing to do”).

Am I making a big deal out of nothing? Or should I be concerned over this?[/quote]

[b]Don't use the word "Latino" for starters. It's offensive. [/b]Him using "white" is also indicative of issues. "Like should marry like" is an old saying that rings true. People of different backgrounds or cultures rarely mix well.

Race, income, culture, etc. differences tend to cause issues in a relationship. 
What did you mean by "like the books says to"? You have a manual or something? People could use a marriage manual these days. :D 
As far as staying at home and doing the domestic work, try it. Just do actual work though and not fill your time watching Oprah or obsessing about silly things. [/quote]

You obviously are not Latino. The bolded is the writing of a progressive white person. Stop speaking over everyone. [/quote]

How racist of you to call me white, not white, or any color. Look in the mirror before you speak that racist nonsense again. [/quote]

So, you admit you're NOT Latino. Stop acting like you're offended for another race.
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