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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not to say that different people don't have different experiences, but the OP doesn't reflect my experience at all. I'm from the midwest, but went to college in California and have lived on one coast or the other my entire adult life. I'm in my mid-40s now.

Almost all of my women friends (~80-90%, I would guess) are married with kids. Almost all of us got married and had kids in our 30s. And almost all of us have advanced degrees, most of us have one or more degrees from an elite (i.e. T20) school. These are people living in different places across the country, but mostly big metro areas that people are saying are hostile to families (DC, SF, NYC, Seattle, etc).

I never had the sense that marriage and kids were discouraged or looked down upon. I wouldn't say were "dating to get married" in our 20s, but marriage was not anathema.

I guess the point of this post is to ask whether it really is common for people to experience marriage being discouraged and frowned upon. It doesn't match mine at all, so asking.[/quote]

Yeah, I agree. I’m from the same general area, but grew up and went to college in NYC. I’m a little younger in my late 30s and pretty much all my friends from high school and college are either recently married with kids (like me) or getting married, pregnant, etc. I never felt like it was discouraged and there were a few people in my circle who got married mid- to late- 20s and had kids soon after and we were all very excited for them and went to their weddings and baby showers. I really don’t feel like weddings and babies were seen as horrible in any way, just something that we didn’t have to do right away unless we found the right person and wanted to.[/quote]

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