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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Now that I’m in my 40s I have the opposite take.

I think marriage and kids is mostly a scam to convince women to provide unpaid labor.

My life would have been better staying single and keeping my high earning job. I’ve sacrificed my body, sanity, career and income for kids and a husband. Not worth it.

When women actually earn money and can live independently they don’t want to get married. [/quote]

If women don’t want children this is all true. But the majority of women will bat children at some point. And children are better raised married in a two parent household. And that’s our problem as women. [/quote]

I don't think the majority of women want children. I think the majority y of women are conditioned to believe that's what they want. As for 2 parents and married well that largely depends on the parents and the culture the children are being raised in.[/quote]

So your argument is that there is no biological urge to procreate and continue the survival of the human race. Sure.
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Agreed. I’m mid 50s now and more content every day with my childlessness - but I had a raging desire for a child from puberty onward until the change of life.

The desire did not outweigh my fear of bringing a child into the world to have a bad father - I’d had one myself and was determined not to subject another child to such a childhood. If I’d met a man who was really good father material I’d have happily had kids.

But the change of life revealed to me how much of it is just biology. Now that the biological drive is shut off, my rational self is very grateful for the tens of thousands of hours I didn’t spend housekeeping child caring husband wrangling etc.

I earned multiple degrees and pursued multiple career paths, enjoyed successes and failures alike, followed my dreams and sometimes my whims and never had to consult with anyone or worry about the impact on anyone other than me. I know I’m supposed to be miserable and lonely but I’m not - it’s okay if you want to tell yourself I am though. Whatever makes your own burdens easier to bear.[/quote]

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