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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I left my xH for my AP. I’m still with AP, but overall I’m just as unhappy as I was with xH.

One thing I learned is that no matter who you are with, there will be problems. There is no perfect person where everything will be perfect with them. You just trade one set of problems for another.

Same with the benefits. There are tradeoffs. xH was far more financially stable and had more financial prospects. AP (current H) is sexier and easier to get him to do what I want. Neither really make me happy. I’ve learned that happiness has to come from within you. [/quote]

I did not leave H for AP but I completely agree with this.[/quote]

Yup. My mom stayed with her AP and he has an entirely different set of problems than my dad does, but overall no less severe. So she's still just as unhappy and it's way less convenient for everyone else. In particular, his financial problems, might seem like not a big deal in your 40s but it sure is a very big deal in your 80s.[/quote]

This is why it is known: cheating is about what’s wrong inside an individual.  The marriage, the spouse, etc have zero to do with it.  Cheaters will continue to blame everyone else for their unhappiness and change relationships, houses, move, etc…but they are still the same miserable individuals on the inside. Rotten in their core. [/quote]

It is within my mom, she's able to seem normal but is actually pretty crazy.

It's true that my dad is an a$$h*le, so I don't blame her for leaving him, but she could have done so much better than who she has now. The thing about cheating is the dating pool is very limited, and people willing to be an AP tend to have a lot of problems of their own. And now she's stuck with him and his problems and half as much family time and everyone thinking it's gross.[/quote]

Women talk about their value a lot far more than men. So some of these women genuinely believe that if their current bf DH isn't seeing their value another man will. Some of these women even with therapy don't believe they are the issues. Sadly in some cases they need to deep digger because they have issues themselves that they need to address.[/quote]

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