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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]100 percent of my friends wives are SAHM wives so I find this discussion interesting. All were professionals. But between 32-37 all dropped out.

None of the wives have any desire for husband to retire early. My wife has been home with kids since 2001 the youngest finally graduating HS soon.

My wife 90 percent her friends have been home with kids 20-30 years. They have their own lives and what is rush to have husband home all day.

None of the men are resentful they work and none of women have a desire to go back to work after working their butts off to raise kids.

It might be a little they only have been saving for retirement on one income so they need to stay. Or maybe since they devoted their whole life to work and wife to raising kids they feel out of place at home or wife views them as one more kid to watch.

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That's our situation, except I've told my husband he can retire whenever he wants. He's not working for $$, we already have more than needed.  I suspect he would be bored at home, and not having a place where he is fully in charge and everyone looks up to you (he's a CEO and has been for 15 years).  I've told him to retire when he wants, and if desired pick up consulting or being a board advisor for companies---something that keeps him happy but that is minimal work and FLEXIBLE work, and would allow us to travel extensively.  Or he can do nothing.[b]  I don't care---but I suspect the transition from a high power position to doing nothing might not be the exact best path in your 50s.  [/b][/quote]

Speak for yourself.  That’s exactly what I did and it’s been GREAT![/quote]

Glad it worked for well for you! How old were you?

I'm speaking for our family---and my husband whom I suspect is not quite ready to go from a high powered, in control, important person to everyone to dropping that cold turkey and just staying home and "doing nothing" at 55. At home we are equals and quite frankly I've been running the "household" for 25-30+ years, so I would be considered the "expert" at most of that.

I think he might be happier with something in between at that age, as a transition towards full retirement.  Just a little something.  I might be wrong.  Thankfully, finances will allow him to retire Whenever the hell he wants.

I just know once you give up a FT job as a high level exec, one that you know everyone and everything for over a decade, if you decide you still want to "work FT" starting over at a new company could end up being way more stressful---when you are the new person and literally don't know anyone on the team. And that's if you can find "the right position".  
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