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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was a SAHM who didn't check my texts when a snow day was announced because I knew there would be a few texts from working moms asking me to take their kid all day for free. No. I do this for my kids, not your kids. It isn't my responsibility to fill in your childcare cracks. OP, you can ignore the text. It sends a message and that message is go find another sucker.[/quote]

Yes heaven forbid you help your community on the 1 or 2 snow days a year  🙄  I’ve been both a sahm and wohm and I don’t get people like you. I want to be a good friend and community member and help where I can and it costs me little to nothing.  I’ve done 100% of the driving for an activity for my kid and a classmate bc otherwise the classmate couldn’t do it - what’s the sense in that? It was fun to hear their convo.  Those parents work like crazy and will never be able to pay back on rides, but so what.

You get the friends and community you earn - I have very valued friendships, people that care deeply about my children even if they never once give them a ride, and a community that provided immeasurable emotional and practical support when we had a major family crisis.  But yeah you keep making sure you’re not taken advantage of the one or two days a year (and no I’m not that person calling you and trying to justify it- we have paid help that we rely on when needed)[/quote]

PP here - and no I’m not saying OP should be the neighborhood driver every day, I’d say no to that too. I like the 1:1 time with my kid then and also find that time of day very stressful in general.  But it’d be very kind to offer to the first week while they sort out a plan or be an occasional backup.  Saying yes to what you are willing to do doesn’t mean you have to say yes if they ask for more - you can easily offer what you feel good about and not worry about “being taken advantage of”[/quote]

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