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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. I am reviving this post a year later to give an update and get some feedback on the current situation:

Six weeks ago H agreed to move to the guest apartment himself. I suggested, and he rejected the idea of splitting up days when we would each take turns spending time with our daughter (like "you take care of her Friday afternoons/evenings, Saturday mornings, Sunday afternoons" or any other combination). He says he wants to be able to see our daughter anytime. I told him of course, she could go to the guest apartment at any time, he needs only to text or call her. He doesn't want that either. He shows up at any random time in the main house. As a result, I am stressed out of my mind anytime he is at home (in the guest apartment), knowing that he might come over at any time and say something that hurts me. His latest statements: "Your are just incapable of being content, you have never been content." "There is so much negativity coming from you, I can't be expected to be civil toward you."

I dread it whenever he is at home, even if he is in the guest apartment. I don't know how to get him to come over only at predetermined times (when I would be either in my home office or out of the house).

Our daughter wants me to stay in the main house and not switch with H, because she wants me upstairs with her at night, especially when H is away at work during several nights a week.

Changes from a year ago:
- Now he comes home not only during the weekend, but also during Monday and Thursday nights.
- Now he does not threaten with moving out anymore. On the contrary, he insists on living here and would ideally want me to move out asap.
- I told him that I would be moving out as soon as our daughter goes off to college (still a few years out). 
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