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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Assuming you have enough money and will be able to retire comfortably, there is nothing wrong with him having more flexibility. I gained a lot more flexibility and can work less starting around age 48, because I’m “the boss.” I don’t have to get into the weeds. My team does and comes to me to make the hard decisions. Hard decisions take a lot less time than digging into all the details to present the issues to me.

Honestly, my husband is a little freaked out that I’ve gone from being a workaholic to perfectly ok running to the grocery store between meetings at 2pm on Tuesday or even watching TV while I eat my lunch. I spend LOTS more time with our middle school daughter.  I make about 80% of our income.

I also want to retire as soon as I can. Hopefully by 55, but definitely by 60. It will depend on the exit value of my company in a few years. He looks freaked out when I mention retirement. But he will adjust.

That said, you really need to dig into what you want here. Do you want him doing more family
Stuff? Or to just stop bugging you about making more? Or both? Figure that out. But acting like he needs to go back to being a workaholic is likely incredibly unrealistic. He is pivoting and likely realizing life is too short.[/quote]

Wow, I am woman who identifies a lot with this post, except for the mid TV thing. But I don’t hesitate to, say, walk at lunch. [/quote]

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