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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have (just turned) 18 year old senior twins.  Both are great students and have strong test scores.
They will not address much college related.  We went on many tours, they have lists. 
One is 80% there with the personal statement, one is 20% there. 
Both have done nothing more. 
They have all sorts of applications that are due on Oct 15 and more due Nov 1. 
They refuse to do anything related to these.  It's another Saturday and they're sitting on their phones.  So far it's been solid phones from 10am to 1pm. 
One has afternoon/evening plans today, one has evening plans. 
Tomorrow they'll do homework.

I know they are planning on us (parents) on bailing them out. 
My husband says he'll just go ahead and write their supplemental essays, etc. when the deadlines hit. 
He REFUSES to take away privileges, etc. in the meantime.  For instance, he would never take away the car tonight and insist they stay at home vs. go out all afternoon and evening.  There's not much I can do with zero buy-in from him. 
This infuriates me.  I think it teaches horrible life lessons, etc.  
I really feel that my one kid especially needs to just learn a giant lesson from this:  he is 18 and at some point he needs to know that we won't bail him out.  That his actions (or lack of actions) have consequences.  He doesn't get stuff done?  He takes a gap year.  He works.  I refuse to spend an all-nighter in mid October writing his essays.

Thoughts?  It's causing INSANE friction in my marriage.  
I am seriously contemplating just leaving for a month and moving in with a friend.  They (the kids) know they can ask me anytime for help but I will not outright write these essays on the final day. 
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Their father is an a**hole. What do you expect.[/quote]

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