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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would let the natural consequences play out, but I would also let your DH know how disappointed you are and why (i.e., enabling your kids); let them (your kids and your husband) know that your are available now to guide them, but you do not plan to do the work for them because they are now adults.  If they wait too long, they AND YOUR HUSBAND will have 30+ essays to write.  Let them (your kids and your husband) be that stressed and feel the regret.[/quote]

This totally glosses over the fact that no one else other than the students should be writing these essays. You all really want to treat this is workload rather than cheating? Op's husband is cool with teaching his kids to cheat before they even start college. And, your counter is that it will be work for him? What is wrong with people?! [/quote] Of course it’s cheating, but the husband clearly doesn’t care.  I’m not going to give relationship advice — the OP can take that up with her DH.  To the direct issue of the kids not wanting to put in the effort now, all I’m saying is she should let natural consequences happen — that is, they will face a deadline to get 30 essays in and are going to either get it done with a lot of stress, or not get it done at all.  If the DH wants to write them, then he will feel the stress.  I literally saw the same thing happen to a colleague; he had to take PTO just to get everything done, which I thought was ludicrous — but that’s his own doing.[/quote]

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