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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Haven’t read everything, but in my experience British culture is a lot more accepting of negative emotionality (and much less accepting of positivity or anything that seems of bragging). I do think there’s a degree to which it is just social awkwardness of misfiring, but I think there’s a cultural component as well. [/quote]

op - it's so interesting you say that because i have zero tolerance for bragging and struggle with how much it happens here. I've actually talked about this in therapy because I find it so triggering and it wasn't really an issue back in the UK because it's much less socially common (it obviously does happen but it's not as endemic). I do encounter people here of course who have a lot of humility despite having things to brag about, especially among people with really high social eq, but it's wild to me how many people straight up show off or tolerate this behavior. It's to me so antisocial and alienating and I'm unclear how you would forge a friendship with a person who wants you to experience a negative emotion. [/quote]

PP and my totally amateur theory is it has to do with British class vs American class. Obviously class is real and exists in America as well as Britain, but it’s more flexible in the USA and also something you can sort of prove through for example by showing off. Whereas if you’re British you can’t become upper class or whatever by showing you have money or a good job, and it’s actually considered offensive (and disloyal) to try. I find the British approach charming in its own way but also sometimes baffling, and I don’t really think people should HIDE happiness either (which I feel can happen under British approach).

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