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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To answer your question, just don’t list in under the EC section of the common app for this year. That being said, his counselor will write a recommendation for him, as will two teachers, and you want to make sure they do not discuss this as a lack of character and commitment. If you truly want your child to quit mid-season, instead of just not attending practice when he has tests, he needs to go talk to his counselor beforehand and ask their take on it. Okay, now for the morals lesson you do not want to hear, you are teaching your child to quit. Although he is not playing in the games, he is there practicing and the team relies on him being there for practice to field enough kids to scrimmage. His participation is important to the team, whether he plays in the games or not. You are not always going to be the best and you are not always going to get the chance to play, but he should honor his commitment to the team for the rest of the season. Then, please do not let him participate again. [/quote]

Best post in this thread.[/quote]

If you believe in misplaced priorities. You all seem to be focused on the team and have forgotten the harm OP said is being done to the child. Where is your concern for the child's well being?[/quote]

What harm? OP said they got on a school team (which is to be celebrated) but isn't a starter yet. How is that harmful? They said they have to study later into the night but that is exactly what all of their teammates do.

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This.  My biggest pet peeve are the parents who let their kid stay home to finish a big paper that is due or otherwise gives them a pass. There are kids who do theater and practie into the night, and other kids who play sports and practice into the night. And they use their time to maximize doing homework and other activities - babysit, care for a grandparent, work to earn money, whatever. They all figure it out. OP's kid is no different, but wants to be treated differently by bagging out on a commitment.[/quote]

Except OP's kid is trying to figure it out. No team is going to miss a benchwarmer! I say that as someone who was a benchwarmer myself in high school. I guess it was a growing opportunity - and also just embarrassing and a gigantic waste of time. Life is short, time is short. OP's kid isn't the star of the play who proposed skipping opening night because they just didn't feel like going. They're someone who isn't actually playing - and isn't enjoying this time, and thinks their time is better used doing something else where they might see more of a payoff.

I don't care what OP's kid does or doesn't do. The more frictionless course is definitely just riding this out until the season is over. But if the kid wants to take more control in their life, and decides to take that time back now - who is hurt by that? [/quote]

Their teammates when they go to practice and there aren't enough players to scrimmage
Their teammates when a starter can't play and the bench is empty - or the only person left on the bench is even less experienced that the kid who quit.
Their coaches when they have to deal with the moms and dads who want to know why their kid didn't make the team even after some other kid quit.

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If the whole team is going to fall apart because one benchwarmer decides to stop playing, then that is not a well planned team. Do you see a reaosn they can't pull a kid or two up from JV if they need a few more bodies?

But I dont know! Maybe OP's kid is their lucky charm or really is needed during practice or whatever. I would look into that - and if it would cause a hardship, I'd take that into consideration. But I don't think we need to speculate OP's kid into not doing what theyt hink is best for themselves.[/quote]

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