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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I assume they think they will car pool when the baby is older. But you don't like helping, so do not help. It really is that simple.[/quote]

If they thought this why wouldn't they say this.

Here is what I know about people who like to take advantage of others:

They are often a bit unclear in requests on purpose because that enables them to play dumb later. "Oh we thought you were find doing this all year even though we definitely never said 'can you help us out this year with the school commute.'"

They are good at soliciting sympathy to make people feel obligated. This is why the family made their request all about the infant's sleep and not wanting to wake the baby -- most moms are going to be sympathetic to that. Note there are other ways to frame this that would have been equally (and perhaps more) true but less sympathetic. Like if they'd said "my mom is watching the little ones but she is balking about doing the school run on the mornings I have to work" or "my office is being a stickler about my start time and DH doesn't want to adjust his hours to accommodate" OP might have been less inclined to say yes. She might have thought "ok I get that's an issue but it sounds like an internal family problem for you to resolve." But by framing it as a problem specifically with an infant's sleep schedule they make themselves look as sympathetic as possible.[/quote]

Then Op should clarify, yes?
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