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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]As an aside, why does this child have TWO a more years of college? Change majors 3 times or got a late start?[/b][/quote]

I question this as well. Is DH is expected to pay for his daughter for 2 more years? We're talking about significant nonessential (car, etc.) support for an ADULT vs. contributing to the basic living expenses of young minor children.

Let's be clear - 22 years old is not a "child" anymore. Plenty of young adults figure out how to fund their education without any help at all from parents, let alone being furnished a car with insurance, etc.

Maybe the daughter can learn from some of her contemporaries. Like, work a full time job to support her own living expenses and go to school part time. (Many companies offer tuition reimbursement.) [/quote]

They may have been red shirted. Telling her to move home, work full time, drop out school and find a local school, is a good way to shatter a family. Saying companies offer tuition remnimbursement tells me that you've never worked one of those jobs. Like most benefits in retail, the hoops you have to jump through make the benefit almost non-existant. [/quote]

Red shirting, agreed-upon gap year, change of major. At some state schools, it's hard to get into the classes you are required to take for your major, so it can take longer to graduate. Maddening but it happens. [/quote]

OP here—oldest child was born in after school cut off (oldest in class). [b]Currently in a five-year program for accounting (d[/b]id switch majors/double major). Work over the summer was minimal, as child went to Europe for 5 weeks (self-financed). DH pays mortgage, utilities, car insurance, and all tax bills. I pay mortgage/taxes on an investment property, all medical for everyone except for co-pays for eldest child, dental, vacations, car payments for our own two cars (paid off this earlier this year), all groceries, landscaping maintenance fees, and all of my kid’s expenses like activities, medical to include co-pays, clothes, 529 plans and whatever else is needed. I contribute to my own 401k. I also clean, meal prep, and do all the laundry for me and my kids. DH does his own.[/quote]

It sounds like she'll be self sufficient after graduation which will be great for dad when she goes no contact because she hates her step mom [/quote]

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