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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did go for (and have) a third. She is only 3 now so I can’t project how my life will feel down the line, and it sure is busy now with 3 under 10, but I absolutely cannot imagine life without her. 3 is a tipping point where there is almost always at least 1 around, kids coming by the house, life revolving around kid activities, vacations catering to destinations for bigger families, etc. so you really have to think about if you’re okay embracing this.

That said I think if we had not been able to have a third, we would have focused on the good stuff about stopping at 2 (e.g. more disposable income, man to man coverage instead of constant juggling).

Obviously I can’t really envision this now that I have and love my third. But the point is I think you’ll end up being okay with whatever you decide. There will be downsides and upsides either way, so you need to just embrace what ends up being and not live in some imaginary what if.[/quote]

I have four kids, and they are mostly young adults now - youngest is 16, oldest is 24...  Last night we went out for a family dinner and the kids all drove into DC together, dinner was laughing and banter among my kids who are all so different, yet adore each other.  It was a great feeling.  Yes, our family vacations have been more expensive and tougher logistically, and yes, my husband and I are tired, but a big family can be wonderful.  We saved early for college so that hasn't been an issue (and obviously that is a privilege).  As we think of our future, it (hopefully) involves lots of grand kids and family time.  Hearing our kids talk amongst themselves about how many kids they want - ranging from 6 to 2 is also heartening.  They value family, too.  Anyway, all this to say that many kids is not for the faint of heart or people who need to be in total control of how things will go.  But if you are open to it, it can be very rich and satisfying.[/quote]

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