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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.[/quote]

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.[/quote]

Not even if he's a politician.  Nobody gives a $hit.

You should leave the other husband alone, it's not your business.  Your husband is your business.[/quote]

Not OP, but: The cheated-on husband needs to know. He needs to get tested for STDs (as does the OP). Who knows whether his cheating wife has slept with other men as well as the OP's DH? Basic health is one reason to tell the spouse of an AP partner about an affair.

So is fairness: He deserves to live a life where he is fully informed as he makes choices. When people have affairs, they are taking away their cheated-on spouses' agency [i]in their own lives[/i]. Imagine finding out years later than your spouse was cheating on you while [i]together, as a couple[/i], you made plans for your kids together, bought a home or made other big changes, shared happy experiences on vacations together, planned your retirement together etc. All while you thought you actually WERE a couple, and the whole time, you were not; a third person was part of the relationship all along. That is part of the deep destruction cheating creates; the cheated-on spouse has lived, maybe for years or decades, believing that choices were made and memories forged and kids raised, as a team of two. When that wasn't real. The cheater can compartmentalize it as "It was just sex!" but the cheated-on spouse's day to day life is actually a lie. That's why the AP's DH should know. It will hurt him but at least he'll get back real agency over his own life and choices. [/quote]

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