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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In the same boat over here. I am in my early 30s, been with my partner for 10 years, married for 7. Happy with my relationship though there is some give and take. We have alot of similarities but also alot of differences which have cause some strain of the years. (Normal lows for a couple who have been together for a decade) a few weeks ago an older man struck up conversation with me in the laundromat. In conversation I did mention my husband, so he knows I am not "available". I learned that he was a massage therapist in town and being a very active trail runner and seeks therapeutic messages here and there, he goes me his card. A few days go by and I end up making an appointment. When he greets me at the appointment, I'm immediately attracted to him. I can't describe the feeling, I thought he was handsome when I met him but this was more like I want to walk right up and make out. This catches me off guard and he is definitely older than me. (Maybe in his mid to later 40s? Which is definitely an age for men I've been finding myself eyeballing as I get older myself) I can't relax once the message starts... im lusting over him right there on the table and haven't stopped since... ive had 2 sessions with another one in the books. This has me concerned too and like you, I am so distracted by the thought of him I feel like I can't get anything done. 
Aside from wondering if these feelings are wrong being married, I know these are not healthy when building rapport with a message therapist. (I truly have benefited from the amazing body work he has done in only 2 sessions) I can't help fantasizing that he also feels this electric attraction and this will lead to something more. (Which I would never do, I find cheating wrong ontop of the ethics and integrity of his profession now that I'm a client) I don't even know too much about his personal life or even his sexual orientation for crying out loud!  Sorry I have no advice and can only provide you comfort in knowing you are not alone![/quote]

A couple of years ago I twice went to a massage therapist who did not do anything inappropriate but I did have an O. He was using a heated massage oil and it just felt so good. After the second time I switched therapists and skipped the hot oil. [/quote]

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