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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]On the toilet? Well, if he's there I assume he needs to be.

At any rate, you need to be a stronger communicator.

"I need you to take the kids out to the backyard to play on the swing while I make this casserole."

"The girls are throwing things at each other and screaming and I need you to make that stop and sit in front of Bluey with them while I make this stir fry."

"I need you to make dinner once a week -- it can be anything, and as easy as you want -- let's choose a day now." [/quote]

[b]Why is it OP’s responsibility to notice and narrate what needs to be done in the house?[/b] If she just disappeared and left her DH with 2 young kids and household tasks while she goes to lay down she would be a pretty crappy spouse/parent.

If I were OP I would just stop making dinner. Make sandwiches or something easy for the kids because you have to feed them. But I would not be cooking for this man nor doing his laundry or anything. I’d take care of myself and the kids. If he asks where is dinner I’d play dumb and be like oh I wasn’t sure where you were so I went ahead and ate some leftovers. You’re welcome to heat some up for yourself. [/quote][b]

Because 1) what she is doing clearly isn't working, and 2) this is how marriage works -- communication. I was assuming OP still wants a marriage. Your suggestion is passive aggressive manipulation; I'd rather be divorced than act in the childish manner you suggest. [/quote]

She’s already communicated to him she needs help and that didn’t work. So continuing to “communicate” more isn’t going to fix a thing.

Just not making dinner isn’t passive aggressive. It’s a natural consequence. Her telling him she needs help around the house isn’t working, so it’s time she drop the rope some and let him help pick up the slack.

The only one behaving childishly is her DH who is off hiding while his wife cooks dinner and cares for the kids. [/quote]

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