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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got food poisoning once on day 1 and spent the entire expensive vacation in an expensive hotel room bathroom floor while my DH did a few of the expensive excursions by himself and we let the other ones go to waste. It was awful, and frankly 8 years later it still is to remember. I always plan for bad weather wherever we go and my expectations there are always low, but you can’t plan for [b]debilitating illness[/b]. [/quote]

Food poisoning is not a debilitating illness. Try an auto-immune disease on for size. Or maybe threw in a few brain tumors. :roll: [/quote]

This isn’t a contest. You don’t win anything by playing the biggest victim. Other people have their own problems, it’s not your job to put them in their place.[/quote]

Some things are objectively not as big of a deal as others. Think hang nail vs broken leg. Not everyone deserves a pity party when they are being a grown up baby. [/quote]

Nobody ever really “deserves” anything. Go start your own post about your miserable life and maybe someone will humor you. [/quote]

People who are going through real hardships deserve sympathy and help. You have clearly never experienced any real debilitating illness. Instead of throwing a tantrum, be grateful. [/quote]

People going through real hardships deserve empathy - but don't get to tell everyone else that the ups and downs of our own lives don't matter because they relate to thinks that aren't at the bottom rung of the hierarchies of needs.

OP didn't say her life is over and she'll never enjoy everything again. She's bummed out that a trip she was looking forward to was a bust. That is normal and human - she doesn't have to be told that at least she's not dying of cancer.[/quote]

You and op both lack perspective. If you had that, you’d get it. But you don’t, so you don’t get it. [/quote]

Maybe this isn't the thread for you.[/quote]

Oh I think it is. Again if you had perspective you’d just be grateful you were able to get away and afford a vacation. Miserable people are always going to have a bad time. [/quote]

I think you might be missing the perspective that hopefully not every moment of life is a matter of life and death. And you are allowed to have feelings about those non-life and death moments, too. Including feeling disappointed when a vacation you've anticipated turns out badly.

I think we'd all say something was wrong if OP started a GoFundMe and begged her friends and neighbors to buy her another trip, and threatened to throw herself off a roof over the disappointing vacation, or told a friend with cancer that the friend doesn't know true suffering because they'd never had rain for a straight week when all they desperately wanted was to sleep on the beach.

But to have very limited time off, and look forward to doing something rewarding during that time off, but to find your plans all thwarted - when you know you aren't getting that kind of time off again anytime soon. Yeah, it's ok to complain a little bit, and to feel terrible for a short while.

Anyway, I'm sorry such awful things have happened to you. May you one day have the luxury of feeling sad about a bad meal or a souring relationship, or a deeply disappointing vacation.[/quote]

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