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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My adoptive parents were like this. My aunt too. I think it's generational. They NEVER call/ed me, but when I call them, all I hear about is how worried they were or they wanted to tell me something, etc., etc. I'm old enough that my parents died before texting became a thing and my Aunt is 90 and basically blind. So, I get the not texting. But it drove me nuts that these people never called me. They all give the "we don't want to bother you" excuse. Maybe it's because back when they were young and telephones had just been invented people were expected to take all calls the moment the phone rang? Dunno.

In any case, my first mother is about 15-20 years younger than my adoptive parents/aunt. She calls. Not a ton, but at least a couple times a month. I call her about the same amount. No guilt or lecturing. It's so much more pleasant.[/quote]

Very insightful about the “phone rules”.  Different generations experience life differently.  Growing up, when the phone rang, you answered it.  And it was always someone you knew calling to catch up or give you news.  There was no letting it go to voicemail or calling them back at a more convenient time. So, yeah, I could see someone in their 70’s viewing the phone as something more intrusive than it actually is now - and therefore feeling like the other person might be too busy to deal with a ringing phone.[/quote]

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