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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am. SAHM so the dynamic is a bit different but Apps are correct that you must be firm and insistent because what you allow will continue.

My H goes to work out in the morning before work which makes it so I cannot do the early morning mom routines you see online. If I want time to myself it must be in the evening so I book exercise classes in the evening. Classes work better because 1. They happen at a set time and have a cancellation policy so H can't just tell me to go later. 2. I just show up and don't have to also plan a workout routine.

The other thing is making sure the labor done around the house is visible instead of H assuming a magic cleaning fairy tends to everything. I have a weekly cleaning schedule so that I get to everything once a week but not everything is clean at the same time. So for example the bathrooms all get cleaned on Tuesday and get progressively dirtier throughout the week. Deep cleaning / organizing tasks usually also take place when H handles bedtime so no one is "sitting" and getting an "extra break" before kids are down

I am sure someone reading this will attack me and say I am a SAHM so why no Martyr myself. Well I already had a cancer at age 20 and am in remission for 10 years. I do a lot for my family but I want to be here for my family. It isn't my job to work so hard I get a reoccurrence and then have my H remarry as most widowers do  Women morn men replace. All women should take care not to stress ourselves so much that we get sick our rates of autoimmune issues have risen dramatically through the years and it is the stress that is causing it [/quote]

I’m glad you’re in remission and you’re able to stay home for your health.

But many of us don’t have that option.

Signed,
A single mom with primary custody whose husband talked a big game when there were no kids and then blew up our marriage and almost lives when our children were toddlers. Luckily I am the breadwinner and worked my way up. [/quote]

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