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[quote=Anonymous]Energy and cost.

We were 34 when married, 36 with 1st and 39 with 2nd.  I was going to set the limit at age 40 for a kid and we got our boy and girl so done.  A personal decision to be sure as I just did not want to go through the infant stages of not sleeping and dealing with childcare with a 3rd kid post age 40.

Money has A LOT to do with it of course. If I were made out of money and knew I could get help for as long as I wanted I think I'd consider it.  If I had family support, maybe as well.

In my reality, there was no way we would have a 3rd knowing what we knew with 2.  Hell, if the first had been a girl and had I more family (aka cousins for my kid) I likely would have stopped at 1 kid as DH wanted to do. The amount of money it takes now is soul crushing.  To live in UMC neighborhood and to be able to find preK and childcare is outrageous.  I'm not sure how anyone has more than 1 kid who doesn't have bank.  I say that as a very successful working mom - and with 2 kids now tween/teen aged - it's just as much time and costs with activities, carpools, school worries/mental health, etc.

The other thing is - if your kid as any learning disabilities it doesn't come out till they are older.  So until age 10, both my kids were "easy."  But nowadays, with one having ADHD and dyslexia and the other anxiety, I say thank god we don't have 3.

If you don't have a village, having kids is super hard.  Looking back, if we had 3, we'd be dead!!!  LOL
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