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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Peers matter. [/quote]

THIS.
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This peers matter comment is the last defense for paying $90k for private vs a large public. See it all the time on these threads. Don't get it though. To me just reeks of white old man country club vibe. What do you mean Peers matter exactly?  Are you saying that you won't find motivated kids at a large public school? I have 2 kids- one motivated and one not so much. They will both have grades to get into decent colleges. They will both seek out their motivated and slacker peers when they get to college.
Or are you saying that you only want your kids to go to a private college with rich kids so they have more opportunities to for connections to get hired by their friends' parents?

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I think its all of the things previously said, but also its so much more. Its not just about "getting hired by their friends's parents" - that's an extremely short duration view of the impact of a top tier private education. It extends long beyond graduation.

Example: I look at my network/friends from college (T10) and my husbands (T10) compared to my siblings networks (T100 - one public and one private) - its crazy how different they are. And how less helpful they are. This is a conversation beyond what happens "in college" where it might be marginally helpful. Its about how peers impact your life for the first several decades post-graduation. It might not be important to you? But it absolutely is beyond connections at graduation - its the network that lasts a lifetime (jobs, dating, more career advancement (e.g., career hopping), board seats, internships for your kids, private investment opportunities, socialization, travel opportunities etc). Its not for everyone though, and that's ok. Just what I personally have observed in my own experience.
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My husband and I went to top 10 undergrad and we do still keep in touch with classmates but that is the extent of it really.  First few jobs and grad school have been much more influential on career success.  As far as comparing to siblings "circles", I have one sibling who went to a large state school married to a successful entrepreneur without a college degree. She runs in much fancier circles than I do. Brother never finished college but is VP in sales at a friend's start-up. not "uber rich" but a few houses, boat, etc.  I honestly feel like DH and I prefer to avoid our undergrad crowd because they tend to be snobs. Especially the ones who came from little- it is like they completely forgot where they came from and their spouses are insufferable.[/quote]

You can’t win this game when the most successful people on the planet either graduated from or dropped out of top 10 schools.  Larry Ellison is an outlier though he dropped out of UIUC which is top for CS.

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