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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A close friend of mine is from a town that's basically only known for a single tourist attraction. Think Cooperstown, NY or similar. She has struggled financially since marrying 30 years ago and has not been able to return since, though she speaks fondly of it and has cried when she talks about how she can't afford to visit. Two of her adult children did move there, so she hasn't seen them in 5+ years, either. All that to say, there are emotions surrounding this place for her.

[b]DH recently planned a trip to this city to visit this tourist attraction[/b], and I know it'll hurt her feelings if she finds out. We speak almost every day, so hiding a 6-day road trip will be tough, especially if she asks where we are. Advice?[/quote] What does this mean?  Did he plan this 6-day trip without your knowledge?  I would've been upfront from the beginning.  If this was a very close friend and  I could afford it, I  might even invite her to join us for the last couple of days. [/quote]

He'd planned it for him and the kids because I had a business trip, but that trip cancelled, so now I'm going. He would definitely NOT pay to fly her out, a hotel room, and all her food (that's how financially poorly she's done). Would think it's very weird, even.[/quote]

How "financially poor she's done?" Wow. You sound like a peach.
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I'm actually very considerate toward her circumstances (I paid for her to attend both her parents' funerals with my airline miles), but I also know DCUM doesn't understand truly poor, so I wanted to make it crystal clear. But that's cool. Don't care what you think about me since she knows what I've done.[/quote]

Ok troll. You said in your OP that she has not been back to her hometown in 30 years but apparently you flew her out for both of her parents' funerals. That makes no sense. Also if she were "truly poor" you would not talk daily -- as someone with poor relatives I know their lives are too unstable to have that kind of contact and in any case they don't maintain the same phone numbers for long and are often without phone service because they cannot afford to pay for a normal cell phone contract.

Nothing about this scenario makes sense -- you either made it up entirely for some reason or you've twisted a bunch of facts either to conceal your identity or make yourself look better than you actually are in this situation and the result is a total mess that no one can follow and that is why you are getting a lot of questions and criticism instead of advice.[/quote]

You are correct. She purchases minutes for her cell phone when she can afford to, which is rarely. We talk via Facebook Messenger (you can make "calls") or Signal. She is mentally stable, so that's the only impediment to contact.

Her parents did not pass away in her hometown. [/quote]

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