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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]On the other hand! The stakes do not seem that high, OP, if you can retain (or get) some degree of emotional detachment. You don't know exactly what you want, either, and you're also coming out of a marriage. Maybe just keep it a little light: tell him you will see how it goes, but plan to be actively dating other men as long as he is actively dating other women.

Maybe he will decide he can't handle that and is up for monogamy after all. Or maybe you will meet someone you like better, who doesn't come with any red flags. Or maybe you will realize you kind of like having multiple men available to you! Or not– maybe you will end up saying, this is definitely not for me. But don't see a big downside to you of giving this a bit of time. [/quote]

Agree. There's no timeline here for you. You're not looking for someone to live with. You don't even see this guy that much, so it's not taking up the time you could be spending meeting someone else. You're not making a choice here about forever monogamy vs. not, you're just trying this out. [/quote]

Is he practicing protected sex with OP? No unprotected sex of any kind and regularly tests for herpes ?  I’m a woman who was cheated on and had painful UTIs from exH who slept with others. [/quote]

Condoms protect well against transmission from men to women. Obviously they should use condoms. She can also deescalate things physically if she wants some time to figure out her feelings. [/quote]

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