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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How much over?

Technically if each individual piece was within the limit, she did nothing wrong.[/quote]

OP here. It was $6600. Most of the items were exceeding the $500. I’m just annoyed she did not let me know about a purchase this large. [/quote]

I’d be super pissed for a lot of reasons. Money would be one. That’s a ridiculous amount. Second would be violation of our agreement. Third would be excluding me from participating in decorating the baby’s room. [/quote]

OP here. This may sound bad but I don’t care about decorating the nursery. I will set it up but I could care less what the decor looks like. Same with our home. I let her pick it all because I don’t care about those things. [/quote]

PP here. Based on this, I’d say something about violating the agreement. But I wouldn’t ask that furniture be returned. Here’s why. Sometimes it’s worth overspending if it makes your spouse happy. The couple thousand you spend isn’t going to mean anything over time so long as overspending isn’t a habit but giving this gift to your wife will. I’d still say something about the agreement though. [/quote]

OP here. I’m not asking her to return anything, though it won’t be here for another 1-2 months.

I just care that I wasn’t included. If it’s was $1-2k, I wouldn’t care, but $6611.42 is a lot of money to spend without letting me know. We still plan on buying our stroller - $1300 and my wife plans to buy her postpartum care stuff - $500. We will also be renting a fancy rocker bassinet of possibly buying - $1600.[/quote]

You should make her choose one item and cancel the order for everything else. Then decide together on budget and you can pick everything else out together. [/quote]

OP here. I won’t do this. I’m not mean or petty like that. [/quote]

That’s fine but what happens when she does it again? Is she Just going to get away with it? Why have this dynamic at all if it’s useless? Just say F it, buy whatever you want and end up in debt in 15 years.[/quote]

OP here. I told her we can’t spend like this again.

We do have a good income but I prefer to save than spend. [/quote]

Is there something specific that you are saving for?  [/quote]

OP here. No but that is how people go into debt. No budget and wildly spending will create huge debt. No thanks. [/quote]

No.  Spending more than you make creates debt.  
You can spend however wildly you want to, and as long as it’s less than you make, you won’t go into debt.  
If you can truly afford this, then you can afford it.   [/quote]

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