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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Exactly. The fact that the OP can’t see that is concerning. [/quote]

People who have children with lower 
(< 3.70) Sidwell GPAs (or other private schools) keep commenting on this particular point. [b]Please just say you don’t know what it’s like to have a child who earned a 4.0 in middle school, and expected the same, or very close to it, in high school after putting in exponentially more work.[/b] If those children feel disappointed, their feelings are valid. No one has said their child was depressed or suicidal.

These children are entitled to feel however they want to feel. Worry about your own children and let others live. [/quote]

If this scenario (bolded) is true, then you have failed as a parent.

Of course, every "feeling" is valid to the feeling holder. However, good parents know that their role is to guide and teach their kids, and to help them become mature adults, and not wallow in their "feelings." Sometimes that includes popping their little bubble by telling them that their expectations are not realistic, and helping them accept that.[/quote]

A child who is getting a 3.92 was not unrealistic in thinking they could earn a 4.0. Nor is it unconscionable that they might feel disappointed.

Judging a child’s feeling as a parenting fail is crazy. As the psychologists would say, “All feelings are valid,” whether they are rational or not. It’s how you deal with them that determines mental health.

Some days I’m disappointed my thighs aren’t cellulite-free the way they were in my 20s. I get it over it pretty quickly but doesn’t mean that transient feeling of disappointment isn’t real. [/quote]

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