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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are you two?

Why do you feel like you’re not ready to make a life long commitment? Is it something about her, or something about commitment?[/quote]

OP here. I’m in love with and see a future with her. I’ve never thought about marrying a woman before I met her. It’s still just scary because [b]my family doesn’t believe in divor[/b]ce and it’s a lifelong commitment. I don’t feel like there is a rush when it’s a decision that can determine the rest of your life. [/quote]

That's baloney.  You shouldn't get married because you  need to get away from your controlling family. Seek therapy because you are too enmeshed.[/quote]

OP here.[b] I’m a catholic.[/b] They are not controlling. Many people don’t take marriage seriously but I do. Too many people get married with the idea they can just divorce in 10 or 20 years. That’s not what I want for my life or my future kids. They deserve a two parent household with happy parents. [/quote]
Whoa, whoa, whoa. This changes everything. I hope you aren’t fornicating with this woman. So you’ve been dating chastely for a whole year and still haven’t figured it out? I want to give you the benefit of the doubt, but how can you pull the Catholic card when you want to live with her before marriage? Why are you so worried about divorce when you know it’s not permitted in your religion? Now you seem really, really unserious and immature/confused.[/quote]

OP here. You can be raised in a religion and not follow it fully. There are many Catholics who still believe in things that most Catholics don’t. Most Catholics don’t believe in premarital sex, same sex marriage, abortion, divorce, etc., but you have many Catholics nowadays who are okay with all of this. [/quote]
So you take the church’s teaching on marriage seriously (that it’s for life with no divorce), and conveniently none of the other things. I’m telling you now brother, you are not ready for marriage in either the catholic or the secular sense. [/quote]

OP here. I’m saying many “ Catholics” on the left say they’re catholic but believe in what I listed. A devout catholic doesn’t believe in birth control, same sex marriage, or abortion. It’s all a sin. Many Catholics these days are not real Catholics. [/quote]

Well then, any “devout” Catholic that’s killed in a war is a sinner too, by your standards. Can’t win with some people. [/quote]

OP here. It’s not my standards. People shaming me for not being a devout catholic because I believe in premarital sex and living together before marriage. I’m just pointing out many people who call themselves Catholics believe in things that most true and real Catholics don’t. Most still consider them Catholics. [/quote]

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