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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We live in an affluent area and I’m shocked at the number of adult kids living at home not doing much. One mom told me not to let our kids move back home or they will never leave. I have multiple neighbors with college grad children who seem to be unemployed or quit their job to come back home.

How do we prevent kids from failing to launch?

We live a very comfortable life. I could see my kids wanting to come back home, which I honestly love the idea of but not at the expense of the kids not working and becoming functional adults.[/quote]

Give them a six month post graduation grace period like the government does with student loans. Make sure you set expectations in advance as other posters have that they have to contribute while figuring things out. You don’t need to be an ass about it but you can be firm and loving in telling them the why (even though they know) and providing support and help. But be careful that you don’t pressure them so much that in that six months they feel compelled to just do grad school or try to get a professional they may later regret. And if you feel comfortable with it you can let them know you are still a safety net if they truly need down the road but that they are educated adults and need to shoulder all the responsibility that comes with that. No right answer here but good luck![/quote]

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